Let’s face it, the norm these days is to graduate from college, find a stable career, and then build a family once you’re finances are in order and you have a big house. After you successfully complete these steps and find a life partner who you get married to, only then is it time to start having kids. In the 21st century, it is considered crazy to have a baby at 21, whereas 50 years ago this is what everyone was doing. Sometimes, this just doesn’t happen. People have babies at many ages, from 18 to 40, and even outside these ages as well. Having a baby is a monumental stage in a woman’s life, and it should be cherished and celebrated no matter how old she is.
For all of you young moms out there, this post is for you. When people find out that you have a child and you’re less than 30 years old, they become surprised and full of judgement. They look at you funny, and tell you “good luck honey” instead of “congratulations”. Some will smile to your face and then gossip about how irresponsible you are behind your back. Throughout the journey of announcing your pregnancy or letting people know that you’re a young mom there is one important thing to remember…don’t listen to these people!
It is imperative when becoming a mother to be confident in yourself as a woman and as a mom, so that you can provide the best care possible for your child. If you are worrying about people’s judgements of you being a young mom, then you are distracting yourself from being the best mom possible. Eventually from listening to the haters, you will doubt yourself too, and your negative thoughts will affect your actions.
LET GO OF THE JUDGEMENTAL PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
In order to be a productive mom, it is essential to distance yourself and eventually let go of the judgemental people in your life. The people who don’t respect you, who don’t trust you, and who don’t believe in you as a mother should not have the ability to put you down. You do not need to give these people your time and energy that could be spent with your child. As a young mom, it is so important to be confident in your ability to care for your child for your child’s health, and for your health too! Motherhood is a blessing that not every woman gets to experience, and the people you surround yourself with should be understanding of this concept. When you have the support that you need from your loved ones, friends, and colleagues, then you are set up for success even before doing any of the hard work that motherhood entails.
BE CONFIDENT IN YOUR PARENTING SKILLS
Another helpful outlook to have when dealing with judgmental people as a young mom is to have confidence in your parenting skills. Just because you are young, does not mean you don’t know how to care for and teach your child! Letting go of the doubts in your parenting skills can truly save the confidence you have in yourself, as well as show your child that you are the best person to take care of them. Having confidence in your parenting skills also allows you to have confidence in your other skills in life. Raising a child is hard enough on its own, and if you can do that, you can do anything. If your child is learning, smiling, and laughing, then you must be doing something right. Every parenting journey is different, and all kids learn at different paces. You can’t let people’s judgements get in the way of giving the best life to your child, you will only regret it later in life.
REMEMBER BEING A MOM IS HARD AT ANY AGE
When your child is having a temper tantrum in the middle of the supermarket because you won’t buy 10 bottles of soda for them to play with, you feel like the only woman in the world with this problem. The truth is, all kids go through phases like this and you have to remember that you’re not the only one. Your child is not acting like this because you are a young mom and you didn’t teach him right, they are acting like this because he/she is a child. The reality of having kids is that it is not easy for anyone, and it doesn’t matter what age you are. If people are telling you that your kids are acting a certain way because you’re too young to be raising children, remind them that all children are different, and every woman has her own difficulties when it comes to being a mom.
BEING A YOUNG MOM IS SOMETHING TO BE CELEBRATED
Having kids early in life is truly a blessing. If someone in your life is trying to make you feel bad about being pregnant at a young age, or trying to start a family while you’re still young, then it’s time to stop listening to them. You need to realize that your children will make you the happiest you’ve ever been, and this will be a time for you to learn and grow alongside them. Living the way you want to will not only make you a happier person, but you will become more successful in life as well. It’s time to focus on your wonderful kids, and to block out the haters! There will always be negative people who are going to judge you for being a young mom, but you can’t let them put you down. Learn from these people’s negativity and use it as a lesson in your own life-the more positive and caring you are to others, the same positivity and success will come back to you.